"Be kinder and more gentle with yourself, Bonolo. Give yourself grace, you’re only doing this for the first time."

These are the words Bonolo Moleli would tell her younger self today. A reminder that resonates deeply with her journey. A content creator, fashion enthusiast and an unapologetically optimistic soul, Bonolo is currently pursuing her Bachelor’s degree in Education (Foundation Phase) at the North-West University.

Her path hasn’t been without struggle. After her parents separated when she was young, she was primarily raised by her maternal grandparents with the support of other relatives. Life exposed her early to its “habitual toxicity,” forcing her to grow up quickly and become fiercely independent. “I’ve always known what type of life I want to lead,” Bonolo shares. “My awareness of my surroundings and the overwhelming need for change in my life taught me that there is one thing I can do…fight for my life. So I chose to fight, and I still do.”

Breaking stereotypes

One belief Bonolo wishes the world would leave behind is the idea that women should live according to the expectations of others rather than making their own choices. “Women have always been given ‘roles’ they have to live up to and because of this, many don’t dream big or define success on their own terms. The end of this stereotype would allow women to thrive and truly become who they are meant to be.”

The fire that keeps her going

When life gets hard, Bonolo reminds herself that giving up would only make things worse. This mindset keeps her motivated to push forward, even in the toughest seasons.

Her vision for the future

As a future educator, Bonolo is determined to meet not only the academic needs of her learners but also their emotional and psychological ones. “I want to educate myself as much as I can so I can be a teacher who is both academically prepared and psychologically intelligent. I want to create an inclusive, safe environment where children can grow into who they’re meant to be.”

Advice for young women

To other young women juggling studies, life and self-doubt, Bonolo says:

“Show up for your own life. Be fully present in every season and give your best, even if your best looks different every day. Some days you’ll feel confident, other days doubt will creep in. That’s normal. Be intentional, be honest with yourself, give your studies the focus they deserve, nurture your relationships and most importantly, give yourself grace. You don’t need to have it all figured out, just keep showing up.”

What Women’s Month means to her

For Bonolo, Women’s Month is a celebration of resilience and individuality.

“It’s a time to celebrate the different stories of women and how phenomenal they are. It’s about honouring their everyday strength to fight for their lives, leave a mark and bring change despite the challenges they face. Women’s Month reminds us to celebrate these differences and embrace every woman’s story.”

Bonolo’s journey is a reminder that your circumstances don’t define you; your determination does. She continues to fight, not only for her dreams but also for the future of the learners whose lives she will one day shape